VATICAN CITY (CNS) — In official reports of the closed-door talks at the Synod of Bishops on the family, an emerging theme has been the call for a new kind of language more appropriate for pastoral care today.

“Language appeared many, many times,” Basilian Father Thomas Rosica, the briefer for English-speaking journalists, told reporters Oct.7, the assembly’s second working day. “There’s a great desire that our language has to change in order to meet the very complex situations” the Church faces.

Basilian Father Thomas Rosica, the CEO of Canada's Salt and Light Media Foundation, is pictured in a 2009 photo. Father Rosica is urging Catholics not to allow the focus on sex abuse to "imprison us in the past." (CNS photo/courtesy Salt and Light Catholic Media Foundation)
Basilian Father Thomas Rosica, the CEO of Canada’s Salt and Light Media Foundation, is pictured in a 2009 photo. Father Rosica is urging Catholics not to allow the focus on sex abuse to “imprison us in the past.” (CNS photo/courtesy Salt and Light Catholic Media Foundation)

One bishop, whom Father Rosica did not name in accordance with synod rules, reportedly told fellow participants that “language such as ‘living in sin,’ ‘intrinsically disordered’ or ‘contraceptive mentality’ are not necessarily words that invite people to draw closer to Christ and the Church.” (“Intrinsically disordered” is a term used by the Catechism of the Catholic Church to describe homosexual acts.)

Speaking to the synod Oct. 7, Archbishop Diarmuid Martin of Dublin spoke of the need for new language with which to communicate with married couples.

“To many, the language of the Church appears to be a disincarnated language of telling people what to do, a one-way dialogue,” the archbishop said, according to excerpts of his remarks published by the Irish bishops’ conference. “The lived experience and struggle of spouses can help find more effective ways of expression of the fundamental elements of Church teaching.”

Following the same session, Cardinal Wilfrid Fox Napier of Durban, South Africa, told Catholic News Service that “language is something we’ve overlooked for a good while; we’ve used language that is out of touch with the way people speak today.”

“In the past, it was sufficient to say to people, ‘You are going to hell if you continue this way of life.’ Hell was a reality and it was something they knew and they understood it. But if you talk about hell today, people don’t know what you are talking about,” Cardinal Napier said. “So I think the emphasis is shifting (toward), ‘how can you be in a loving relationship with Jesus, and through Jesus with your brother and sister in the church, if you are living in this condition which separates and alienates you from Jesus?”

“Hell was a reality and it was something they knew and they understood it. But if you talk about hell today, people don’t know what you are talking about.”

German Cardinal Walter Kasper, whose controversial proposal to make it easier for divorced and civilly remarried Catholics to receive Communion has been a major topic of discussion at the synod, told CNS Oct. 1 that a traditional description of such couples as practicing “perpetual adultery” is not acceptable in a pastoral context.

“If you tell people who live in this way and they do it in a responsible way, tell them that adultery, permanent adultery, I think they would feel insulted and offended. We must be very careful also in our language,” Cardinal Kasper said in English. “Permanent adultery? It seems to me too strong.”

Bishop Johann Bonny of Antwerp, Belgium, is not a member of the synod, but in September he published a widely read essay calling on the assembly to initiate a range of major changes in the Church, including in its language, which he argued is often “offensive” and “humiliating.”

Couples living together outside of marriage, using contraception or resorting to in vitro fertilization — all activities prohibited by Catholic moral teaching — “deserve more respect and a more nuanced evaluation than the language of certain Church documents appears to prescribe. The mechanisms of accusation and exclusion they have the potential to activate can only block the way to evangelization,” Bishop Bonny wrote.

The synod heard an example of newer language Oct. 6, when two non-voting auditors told Pope Francis and the rest of the assembly that Catholic parishes should welcome same-sex couples.

In their remarks, Ron and Mavis Pirola used the word “gay,” rather than “homosexual person,” which has been the preferred term in official Vatican discourse. The Pirolas may have taken their cue from the pope, who famously used the word “gay” during an inflight news conference in July 2013.

The Pirolas also said much of the Church’s teaching is expressed in language that seems to be from “another planet” and “not terribly relevant to our own experiences.”

Not all synod fathers have the same idea of what language the Church should adopt or discard.

In remarks to the assembly Oct. 9, Cardinal Andre Vingt-Trois of Paris, one of three synod presidents appointed by the pope, denounced the “contraceptive mentality” he said leads many Catholics to think the use of artificial birth control is not a sin.

Later that day, Cardinal Vingt-Trois told CNS that, although the Church must “find modes of expression and modes of communication that will allow it to announce the Good News so that it may be heard,” changing pastoral language does not mean changing the language in which theologians formulate Church teaching.

“When a physician makes a diagnosis, he uses terms to designate precisely the disease in question, but these terms, if he tells them to the patient, he will not understand them. Therefore, he must explain the diagnosis with words that are not technical words. In theology, it is the same thing,” Cardinal Vingt-Trois said.

“When one addresses people to announce the Good News of Christ, one does not teach a theology course. One tells them the contents of the theology but with a vocabulary they can understand,” the cardinal said. “I was a professor of theology. When I taught a theology course, I did not give a sermon; that is another literary genre.”

— By Francis X. Rocca, Catholic News Service.