Sharing the Good News: Communications part of the new evangelization

“Catholics Matter” host Fr. Rob Clements interviews Youth Protection Advocate Paul Pfaffenberger May 9 at Skyline Productions in Phoenix. (J.D. Long-García/CATHOLIC SUN)

In a world flush with instant communication via Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and Instagram, is it any wonder Pope Benedict XVI has taken to the social media sphere to share the Good News?

Last year from his iPad, the Holy Father used Twitter (@news_va_en) to announce a new Vatican website, and has since tweeted messages to thousands of faith-filled followers.

The Phoenix Diocese isn’t a stranger to the tidal wave of mass media. Its Communications Office leads the diocese’s internal and external communication initiatives to ensure the Church’s priorities are effectively expressed in a variety of ways between Church leadership, churchgoers, employees, parishes, schools, the public and the media.

A component of the communications strategy that is quickly growing is the diocese’s social media outreach, which boasts digital initiatives spread out over several of the popular social media websites, including Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, YouTube and Vimeo.

Robert DeFrancesco, director of communications, said vehicles used for communication and evangelization include the “critically important” Sunday Mass, broadcast live from Ss. Simon and Jude Cathedral — alongside The Catholic Sun newspaper and website, Catholic radio and various websites.

Platform for the Church

Giving voice to the Church’s mission is the annual Catholic Communication Campaign. Catholics locally and nationwide will participate in the annual collection, taking place during Masses May 19-20. Half of all donations received from local parishes will directly benefit the diocese’s communication efforts.

“Today’s mainstream media and popular culture are increasingly hostile to Christians and religious liberty,” DeFrancesco said. “The Catholic Communication Campaign provides the Church a platform that cuts through the noise of what’s in the mainstream.”

DeFrancesco said donations to the Catholic Communication Campaign primarily support the Sunday Mass broadcast, which serves elderly and homebound Catholics who are not able to be physically present at Mass.

He said that some 65,000 people tune in each Sunday to the live television broadcast. The Mass is also simulcast on 1310 AM, as well as over the Internet, reaching thousands more.

“Thanks to the web, we are now bringing the Word of God to 900 cities across the United States and more than 100 countries around the world,” DeFrancesco said.

The national campaign ensures that the voice of the Church is broadcast over television, Internet, radio, newspapers and podcasts.

“Those who generously support the Catholic Communication Campaign understand the importance of Catholic media,” DeFrancesco said.

The task of sharing the Catholic Church’s worldwide vision and Gospel message of Jesus through mass media is as varied and diverse as the people who receive it.

The local audience includes 820,000 Catholics, 92 parishes and 35 schools; however, millions of Catholics gain a deeper understanding of their faith through resources they use every day.

Ana Sill, media relations specialist with the Communications Office, said social media sites like Facebook and Twitter have helped the mission of the Church.

“We are able to share important news with the Catholics of the diocese and around the world almost immediately,” Sill said. “Also, it allows our department to be more mobile. We don’t have to be sitting at our desk to get something out. We can post things from our phones, too, and share news and pictures in real time.”

DeFrancesco said it’s important to keep in mind that the diocesan’s mass media services are made possible by the generous support of the Catholic Communication Campaign.

“As Catholics, we are called to be evangelists — to bring the Gospel to the masses. It is critically important to be where the people are,” he said.

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A Catholic voice

The diocesan Communications Office is well versed in providing informed news, thoughts and perspectives on matters of faith and the intersection of Church and society.

It has a distinct Catholic voice that offers unique Catholic perspectives locally, nationally and internationally.

Each Sunday, the Catholic Mass is broadcast live from Ss. Simon and Jude Cathedral at 9 a.m., on KAZT-TV (AZ-TV7, Cable 13), followed by local talk show, “Catholics Matter,” hosted by Fr. Rob Clements.

Every Monday the diocese’s locally produced radio program, “The Bishop’s Hour,” takes on current issues from a Catholic viewpoint.

Hosted by Michael Dixon, it is broadcast at 11 a.m. on 1310 AM Immaculate Heart Radio.

Listeners can catch an encore presentation every Thursday at 9 p.m. Information is available at www.thebishopshour.org.

The Catholic Sun newspaper is published once a month, with timely updates on the Web at www.catholicsun.org.

Catholics can stay connected with the Phoenix Diocese online at several sites:

FILMS: ‘Avengers’: Redeeming the superhero genre

Chris Hemsworth and Chris Evans in Marvel’s “The Avengers.” (CNS/DISNEY)

Stan Lee’s Marvel Comics have been the subject of many on-screen interpretations, including the “Spiderman” and “Iron Man” series as well as several others. Some were great, many were mediocre and still others were outright bad.

The characters in “The Avengers” (Disney) avenge the world and the film itself makes up for the bad ones. It’s terrific, fun, and immersion into the comic book world without the confusion of a laborious back-story or caricatured soul-searching.

Marvel fan and aficionado Joss Whedon wrote and directed the clever script. Yet without seeing the films prequels, it requires concentration from the audience. Every superhero in the film has been part of a previous Marvel film — most have had their own (“Ironman,” “Captain America,” “Thor,” “The Hulk,” and “The Incredible Hulk”).

Loki, the jealous and evil brother of Thor — both gods from another planet — has found a way to make himself the leader of an army of aliens, whose intention is to take over the Earth. He attains an energy source that enables him to gain control of humans. A government agency, S.H.I.E.L.D., led by Nick Fury (Samuel L. Jackson), seeks out a group of superheroes referred to as the Avengers to help fight Loki and his supernatural powers.

The Avengers include Ironman (Robert Downey Jr.), Captain America (Chris Evans), Thor (Chris Hemsworth), the Hulk (Mark Ruffalo), Black Widow (Scarlett Johansson) and Hawkeye (Jeremy Renner). All of these superheroes are reluctant to work together, but are eventually drawn together by the need to serve a bigger cause — saving the world — and come together for an epic fight.

“The Avenger” cast’s performance is pitch perfect and impressive, especially considering how well so many of these A-list actors and actresses share screen time. No one dominates the film, but all of them add to the quality — particularly during the shared scenes that have snappy and witty dialogue.

Tension permeates the superhero relationships and the best part of the film is watching the dynamic evolve. This the moral message: When the heroes abandon their egos and their selfish pursuits, they are able to effectively work together for the good of a people. The Avengers might be saving the world, but any group of people can realize that coming together to serve a cause bigger than themselves makes a positive impact.

Whedon and his team of Avengers have successfully reclaimed what has been a sometimes strong and other times weak franchise. There is certainly going to be more avenging in the future. And that’s a good thing.

Media critic Rebecca Bostic is a regular contributor to The Catholic Sun. Comments are welcome. Send e-mail to [email protected].

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The Avengers (Disney)

The CNS classification is A-III —  adults. Motion Picture Association of America rating, PG-13 — parents strongly cautioned.

Catholic Sun rating

Message: Strong

Artistic merit: Mediocre

Catholics unite in opposition to Obama’s support for same-sex marriage

National and local Catholic leaders are roundly criticizing President Barack Obama’s statement of support for same-sex marriage.

He made the statement May 9 during a television interview. The Catholic Church teaches that marriage by definition is meant to be the exclusive, life-long commitment between one man and one woman and that sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful.

In December 2010, Obama said his views on same-sex marriage were “evolving” and said that he would continue to ponder the issue. An Associated Press story May 10 quoted Obama as saying he wanted to announce his support for such unions “in my own way, on my own terms” but acknowledged that earlier remarks by Vice President Joe Biden prompted his announcement.

On May 6, Biden, a Catholic, said he was “absolutely comfortable” with same-sex couples marrying, adding that they should get “the same exact rights” heterosexual married couples receive.

Some critics questioned whether Obama’s May 9 statement in favor of same-sex marriage truly represented a so-called evolution in thought. Bill Donohue, president of the Catholic League, pointed to Obama’s previous record as proof that the president has supported same-sex marriage in the past.

“In 1996, when Barack Obama was up for a state senate post in Illinois, he said he supported gay marriage. Eight years later, when he set his sights on the U.S. Senate, he discovered his Christian roots and said he was against it,” Donohue said.

Donohue also referred to Obama’s 2008 presidential campaign in which he stated his opposition to homosexuals marrying, but also opposed Proposition 8, a ballot initiative in California that affirmed marriage as being exclusively between a man and a woman.

Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan of New York, president of the U.S. bishops’ conference, said Obama’s May 9 statement in support of same-sex marriage was “not surprising” given his administration’s previous actions “that erode or ignore the unique meaning of marriage.”

Mike Phelan, director of the Office of Marriage and Respect Life Issues for the Diocese of Phoenix, agreed.

“It’s alarming to see the leader of our country come out in favor of redefining our most fundamental, cornerstone institution,” Phelan said. “To see it in print by the leader of our nation — it’s the first time it’s ever happened — is sad and yet not surprising.”

Phelan said the effort to move the United States toward legalization and acceptance of same-sex marriage is a preliminary step toward an ultimate goal of removing the male-female distinction.

“We really have to help people understand what is at stake in fundamentally redefining the most basic institution in human society,” Phelan said. “Already in some of our institutions of higher learning, there is the refusal to acknowledge merely two genders.”

Phelan said this drive toward relativism in the area of gender represents a desire to “obliterate the image of God.” Obama’s statement in support of same-sex marriage will “change education, change religious freedom, and will confuse young people particularly even further about what the family is.”

‘Staggering’ shift

Some of that confusion regarding the meaning and purpose of marriage is already being seen among Catholics of all ages. A March poll conducted jointly by the Public Religion Research Institute and Religion News Service found overall Catholic support for same-sex marriage to be 59 percent, with 36 percent of Catholics opposed.

Support by Americans overall is at 52 percent, with 44 percent opposed.

Ron Johnson, executive director of the Arizona Catholic Conference, the legislative arm that represents the Dioceses of Phoenix, Tucson and Gallup, N.M. as well as the Holy Protection of Mary Byzantine Eparchy of Phoenix, wasn’t surprised by the national poll numbers showing majority support among Catholics for same-sex marriage.

He recalled, however, the way poll numbers regarding same-sex marriage shifted dramatically in Arizona after strong catechetical efforts.

Back in 2008, Arizona voters were considering an amendment to the state constitution barring same-sex marriage. Two months prior to the election, support for the amendment among church-going Catholics was a dismal 44 percent.

“During September and all of October, however, the bishops worked on a number of different high-profile projects that changed these results dramatically week after week,” Johnson said.

Those efforts included a joint statement in favor of the amendment by the Arizona bishops, a video endorsement by Bishop Thomas J. Olmsted that was read at all Masses, and the distribution of 100,000 copies of Bishop Olmsted’s book, “Catholics in the Public Square.”

By the end of this broad catechetical effort, there was a nearly 40 percent swing in the number of churchgoing Catholics supporting the marriage amendment. Post-election polling showed 82 percent of church-going Catholics voted for the amendment, which ultimately passed.

Johnson called the active Catholics’ response to the education effort on behalf of marriage — and the accompanying shift in poll numbers — “staggering.”

Springboard

Donohue used Obama’s statement of support for same-sex marriage as a springboard to encourage similar action at the federal level.

“The time has finally come to pass a constitutional amendment affirming marriage as an institution reserved to the only two people who can naturally produce a family, namely a man and a woman,” Donohue said.

Bishop Olmsted said the debate regarding same-sex marriage needs to be viewed in light of the true meaning and purpose of marriage.

“It’s a question of who we are as human beings, what does it mean to be a man, what does it mean to be a woman, how did God create us and what is marriage,” he said. “Marriage is a God-given institution. It’s not created by governments — it’s recognized by governments, just as the right of human freedom is.”

Bishop Salvatore J. Cordileone of Oakland, Calif., agreed that marriage is not a partisan issue.

“[It’s] a matter of justice, fairness and equality for the law to uphold every child’s basic right to be welcomed and raised by his or her mother and father together,” he said.

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Catholic News Services contributed to this story. 

Spring athletes make their mark in history

Bourgade Catholic captured its first state softball title May 12 (Image from Bourgade Catholic's Facebook album)
Bourgade Catholic captured the Division III state softball title May 12, its first since 1984 (Image from Bourgade Catholic’s Facebook album)

Athletes at three Catholic schools made some historic feats during the spring season with plenty of other teams adding state or runner up trophies to their trophy case.

Only time will tell which trophy Brophy College Preparatory will come home with. The No. 4 seed baseball team plays No. 2 seed Chaparral tomorrow for the Division I state title. The Broncos only held the state baseball title once in 2006.

Historic feats

  • Softball — Bourgade Catholic’s girls team left their opponents scoreless in two of their four post-season games. That put them in the state championship game (Division III) for the first time since 1993, according to The Arizona Republic. This time, the No. 5 ranked Eagles took on No. 3 seed Winslow May 12. They dominated 7-1 to capture the school’s first state softball title since 1984. View the team’s photo album from the game.
    The Eagles were poised for success early on. Bourgade Catholic was state runner up in 1984, 1985, 1988 and 1993.
  • Crew — Brophy and Xavier College Preparatories both have crew teams who qualified at the Southwest Junior Regional May 5-6 to advance to the U.S. Youth National Rowing Championships next month. It’s a first-time appearance for Xavier’s Gators who will compete in a a two-person boat and a 4+-person boat.
    The Brophy duo of senior Matthew Nelson and junior Sean McMahon will also compete. The Nationals are June 8-10 in Tennessee and will feature more than 1,500 athletes from high school and junior rowing programs across the country competing for national titles in 18 boat classes.
  • Sand volleyball — It was a pilot season for this sport and top-ranked Xavier College Prep went undefeated. Full story.
  • School record — May 4 junior Jack Rubenzer, a junior at Brophy, set the school record May 4 for the half mile (800m) at 1:54.00. He shaved off Tommy Williams’ record, who graduated last year, by one-tenth of a second.
  • Undefeated — Brophy’s club lacrosse team finished its first perfect season May 5. The final win (17-0) was the championship against Chaparral, which ended with a final score of 8-5. The teams also played each other in last year’s championship game

Others

  • Lacrosse — Xavier College Prep took home the state title in this club sport for Division 2 play. The Gators also held the state championship title 2004-2010.
  • Tennis — Top ranked Xavier College Prep, the top-ranked Division I team, only lost one match in post-season play. The Gators beat Scottsdale’s Chaparral in the finals, capturing its first state title since 2003.
    — Likewise, Brophy, Arizona’s top-ranked boys’ team left its opponents scoreless until the championship match May 5. It was against No. 2 Desert Mountain. Brophy still won 5-2.
    See Republic story about both schools and a student recap of Brophy’s match.
    — Tucson’s Salpointe had a top-ranked tennis duo in brothers Matt and Andrew Dunn. They captured the Division I state title April 28 leaving No. 6 seed Brophy’s Hudson Blake and Zach Cihlar with the runner up title. Article from Tucson Citizen.
    — The girls doubles tennis match in Division I had a picture perfect state matchup: Tucson’s Salpointe and Phoenix’s Xavier, ranked No. 1 and N. 2, respectively. Xavier’s Maggie Cohen and Scarlet Rush gave Salpointe the upset for the win April 28. The same thing happened in singles play, except Xavier’s Madison Clarke was ranked No. 1 and Salpointe’s Courtney Amos, ranked No. 2, took the state title. Clarke only lost one match before advancing to the state finals.
  • Golf — Yuma Catholic captured the state golf title with an eight-stroke lead in Division III match-ups May 11-12.
  • Track and Field — Salpointe Catholic’s fetes in 17 track field events over the weekend put both the boys team and the girls team first in Division II competition.

Runners up, Third place

  • An unusual state championship matchup May 12 had the state’s fifth- and sixth-ranked volleyball teams competing for the title. Brophy, No.5, bowed out to Gilbert High.
  • Brophy’s fetes in 17 individual track and field events put the boys second in Division I competition.
  • Brophy tennis doubles Hudson Blake and Zach Cihlar finished second in Division I competition.
  • #4 Yuma Catholic lost to #2 St. David in the Division IV baseball game May 12.
  • Arizona’s No. 3 ranked tennis duo defeated their ranking with Notre Dame Prep’s Adrian Cordova and Luke Carstens taking third place in the Division II match April 28. Likewise, the Notre Dame duo of Kelsie Sanborn and Caitlin Railson, ranked No. 2, also captured third place.

Veterans create beauty for others in spite of pain, loss

Recently I was invited to attend the Phoenix VA Health Care System Arts Festival to honor and display the artwork of veterans.

Since so many veterans benefit from VA recreational therapy activities like painting, pottery making, leather craft, creative writing and dance, the VA decided to shine a light on some of those creative talents with an arts festival called “Put Your Heart into Art.”

The art was pretty amazing. The vets were even more compelling. What it taught me about people, pain, redemption, love and our ultimate purpose was utterly amazing.

The first thing it made me realize is that we must learn to see our military not only as soldiers, but as human beings who have survived what is arguably the most horrible, most challenging of human experiences — war.

But what also struck me was the uncanny human transformation that occurs in those vets when they funnel their energy into creating something.

Case in point, Jay Gustafson was just barely a man — only 18 — when he was whisked away to swift boat duty in Vietnam. A few months later he was shooting at anything that moved.

“I saw plenty of action,” recalls Jay. “I would rather not discuss it.”

The experience took an obvious toll on him emotionally, as it would anyone. But he refused to let it stop him from leading a meaningful and rewarding life. He came home four years later to be a carpenter, a husband and a father to four children.

Creating something special

But like so many who are tapped to defend their nation, the end of the war was just the beginning of his battle. Those memories he would rather not discuss and undoubtedly wishes he never had aren’t easy to keep at bay. So discovering the intricate art of leatherwork was a miracle for him.

“It takes total concentration,” explains Jay. “And that keeps me from thinking about other things.”

But a little prodding reveals what might be the deeper medicinal value of the arts program for Jay and others.

He recently spent almost four months working day and night on an exquisitely ornate saddle for his equestrian daughter. And the only thing more beautiful than the saddle was the look on his face when he talked about making it for her.

“It gives a lot of meaning to it when you make something like that and you know how much she appreciates it,” explained Jay. “You put a lot into it, and you know that nobody else can do it, and how much it means to her.”

Jay wasn’t just making a saddle but creating something special for someone, and it gave him great pleasure and purpose to do so.

Maybe that’s what God meant when He said we were created in His image; we were given the ability to create something good for others. And just as God created the world for us because He loved us, and it gave Him pleasure to do so, so might we gain pleasure by creating for others.

Arguably the most difficult thing we can ever subject a human being to is the act of war. But if we can learn through these soldiers that even the worst of human experiences can be counteracted by that impulse and ability to create in many different ways beyond the world of art, then maybe there is some insight we can all use in our own battles to turn disappointment and disaster into love.

Then maybe we all can take a very important step toward being a little more like our Creator wants us to be—and creating a life and a world a little more like He would like us to.

If these soldiers can teach us that, then they will truly be defending our spiritual and psychological lives.

Too busy to pray? Finding time for God brings peace

You may have heard the clever observation that people nowadays have become human “doings” rather than human beings. Multi-tasking, packed calendars and smart phones can keep us bustling from sunrise until long after sunset.

There’s nothing wrong with a busy schedule — as long as we don’t become “too busy” to pray. And by that I don’t mean a muttered, “God help me get through this construction zone so I can get to work on time!”

If we don’t have time to entrust our plans and our day to the Lord, it’s easy to be deceived, and then blind to God’s action in our lives.

It starts out with distorted thinking: What’s the point of sitting in the Blessed Sacrament chapel for adoration? Does it really make a difference?

Then there’s the rosary, that ancient prayer that’s been referred to as one of our greatest spiritual weapons. Maybe we’ve questioned the importance of saying so many Hail Mary prayers. Wouldn’t our time be better spent, say, serving the poor?

Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta was once asked by a reporter how she and her sisters spent hours in prayer each day when there was so much work to be done.

Her response must have surprised him. “If we don’t take time to pray, we could not do this work,” she said simply.

Fr. Sergio Fita, the pastor of St. Anne Parish in Gilbert — one of the largest parishes in the Phoenix Diocese — had a similar answer when I asked him how he and his associate pastor manage to spend about four to five hours throughout the day in prayer, including 15 to 20 decades of the rosary.

“Activity is not worth anything if it is not born of the love of Christ and intimacy with Him through prayer. So it’s not losing time — it’s just the opposite,” Fr. Fita told me. “Prayer is first for the Christian.”

When Our Lady appeared at Fatima, she asked us all to pray the rosary daily for conversion and world peace. She assured the three humble shepherd children that there was no problem — in the family, the Church or the world — that could not be solved by praying the rosary.

Change of heart

I must admit that even though I knew the rosary was a very powerful weapon, I didn’t start praying it daily until about a year ago. That’s when I stumbled on a CD version of the rosary I could listen to in the car.

With lots of time behind the wheel each day getting the kids back and forth to school and covering stories for The Catholic Sun, I realized I could use 20 minutes of that time to pray the rosary.

It wasn’t as though I had this sudden change of heart about it. A good friend had given me a copy of the Liturgy of the Hours, the book of prayer with the psalms, hymns and prayers offered by Catholic clergy, religious and laity around the world for centuries.

I found myself drawn into the rhythm of morning, evening and night prayer. The next thing I knew, it was unthinkable to not have that time carved out each day, devoted to honoring God in union with the Church throughout the world.

Those prayers began to form my heart and mind, giving way to a deep desire to spend more time in prayer. The daily rosary became a natural extension of that. Instead of just enduring the daily drive, I started looking forward to having that time to pray with Our Lady.

A curious thing happens to the soul that begins to build its life around union with God through prayer. There are still just 24 hours in each day, but somehow God makes them more productive and peaceful.

Prayer — whether it’s eucharistic adoration, the rosary, the Liturgy of the Hours, or simply quiet contemplation — draws us closer to Truth, beauty and peace, strengthening us to meet life’s challenges — even rush hour in a city perpetually under construction.

Not my will, but yours be done: Marriage, faith and NFP

Steve and Becky Greene.

Becky Greene is a home-schooling mother and freelance writer who started reclaimingthewomb.com. Steve Greene is an adjunct philosophy professor for Mesa Community College and director of parish administration at St. Anne Parish in Gilbert. They both speak on marriage, life, family and Natural Family Planning.

We weren’t always on board with Natural Family Planning — it seemed a little pie-in-the-sky at first. As we went through marriage preparation some 10 years ago, we questioned whether this was a reliable method for spacing pregnancies. Sure it’s Church teaching, but is it realistic? We needed proof that the science was sound and that the moral arguments made sense.

We were blown away by not only its effectiveness, but its greater benefits — like achieving conception, enhancing the intimacy of our relationship, modeling virtues of chastity and self-mastery for our children, and deepening our Catholic faith. For us, the Church gained all credibility on this issue, reaffirming our trust in her to lead us lovingly in all other matters of life. As a result, NFP has become one of the pillars of our marriage, integrally defining us individually and as a couple.

The bottom line revealed itself when we took the classes. We concluded we had two choices: trust and embrace the beautiful purpose of our biology as God designed and intended it, or trust a pharmaceutical company to suppress it.

That self-knowledge created a mutual respect for our feminine and masculine dignity and compatibility, and instilled awe for the profound significance of each and every act of lovemaking, especially during our fertile window. We realize that in becoming one, we may not just be witness to, but participants in, a miracle. There is no greater natural dignity bestowed on man than the opportunity to be co-creators with God.

NFP virtually eliminates the possibility of seeking selfish sexual satisfaction because it demands appreciation for, not resentment of, our fertility. Our communication and prayer regarding God’s will for marriage transcends the bedroom — we must talk about everything because everything is involved when sexual union and possible procreation go hand-in-hand.

But we’ve also learned that even when the act does not produce a child, it still bears spiritual fruit. We have the opportunity to renew our wedding vows every time we enter the marital embrace — truly becoming one flesh. That bond resets our intimacy, even as the hectic nature of life causes strain and disconnects.

Because NFP calls us to prudently decide whether to abstain or engage during our fertile time, we’ve been trained to be open to both life and sacrifice — the husband learns how to love his wife as Christ loves His Church, and the wife learns how to receive that love, allowing it to potentially generate new life in her womb.

Yes, we can validate its effectiveness — we successfully postponed pregnancy for the first two years of our marriage, conceiving our first son in our first attempt to achieve pregnancy, and spaced our second and third pregnancies by three years. But more telling of its beauty is not how it worked to help us avoid children but in how it inspired us to welcome them. In surrendering to His will, we became more intimately tuned to nudges from the Holy Spirit.

The gift of children

One night in particular stands out. We knew we were fertile, but with a 10-month-old still waking at night, financial stresses, and the question of whether we were ready to be pregnant again, lovemaking would have to wait.

But then a revelation overtook us, one we would have been deaf to without the insight Natural Family Planning affords.

We profoundly recognized that we could conceive a new life if we entered the marital embrace. If we abstained, the possibility of that life would cease… forever — we of course could have other children down the line. But this child would never exist.

Nine months later, our second son — the fruit of that surrender — was born, and he is a daily reminder of the responsibility and empowerment that comes with our God-given freedom. NFP helps us see that children are neither burdens nor rights; they are divine gifts entrusted to us. This was further highlighted for us with the recent loss of our fourth child to miscarriage.

Children puncture the illusion that our lives are our own, and we are in control of them. Parenthood has become the ultimate act of faith, and acts of faith grow our faith. Through practicing NFP, we’ve been invited into holiness. We’ve learned the utter necessity of clinging to Christ in both our joys and our sorrows, genuinely proclaiming, “Not my will but yours be done.”

Updated May 16, 2012 with video:

The blessing of a fruitful life; Part two: Openness to life and personal identity

A particularly dramatic moment of human freedom occurs in a Catholic wedding when a man and woman stand before the altar and answer three “questions of clarification” about the nature of marriage, just before the vows are exchanged.

“Have you come here freely, and without reservation?” The couple answers, Yes.

“Will you honor each other as husband and wife for the rest of your lives?” Yes.

“Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of God and His Church?” Yes.

Our postmodern culture balks: “Wait! Is the third question really necessary? Certainly, we must be all about freedom, and unconditional love, yes, and even fidelity is an attractive ideal (if not realistic for most humans), but a promise to be open to children? Is this necessary to promises of marriage?”

“Yes,” says the Church, “it is entirely necessary.” The Church does not invent the meaning of marriage — she merely protects and promotes it, in all of its natural and sacramental beauty. At the center of the beauty of marriage is the gift of children, and of being a mother and a father.

In other words, when Pope Paul VI’s encyclical of 1968, Humanae Vitae, echoes the 2,000-year teaching of the Church, “…each and every marital act must of necessity retain its intrinsic relationship to the procreation of human life,” (no. 12) more than a clear teaching against contraception is taught, though that teaching is clear and unchangeable. For those that have “eyes to see and ears to hear,” an ennobling call from our mother the Church, and therefore from Christ Himself, is heard. It is the high call to married couples to reject the stultifying, fear-based shadow of marriage encouraged by the contraceptive mentality of our age; and, instead, to embrace the fullness of the call to marriage in all its life-giving splendor and dignity.

A person’s identity and the call to be life-giving

If the choice of sterility (I am not talking here about infertility, which I will discuss in the next article) were not in some odd sense attractive, it would not be such an effective lie, and it would not be chosen by so many today. What lurks always as a temptation near the human heart is the desire to be undeterred in one’s choices by any law outside of the self.

In his 1964 play “Radiation of Fatherhood,” a dramatic reflection on the Trinity and human freedom, the future John Paul II placed in the mouth of the mysterious character Adam the following expression, “Ah, to stand apart from everything, so that I could be only within myself!” Adam, not accidentally the Biblical word for man himself, fears the call to parenthood, to bring a child into existence, because he fears the death of his ego which this entails. He fears the suffering that will of necessity accompany becoming and being a father. And yet in the play, God calls him to become who he truly is by becoming a father. It turns out that there is no other path to human fulfillment than the path of fruitfulness, of motherhood and fatherhood.

“Become who you are!” Blessed John Paul II was fond of repeating to priests, consecrated persons, and parents. He knew the all-too-human fear to which we are subject in living our vocations, and he knew the antidotes.

‘Love and Responsibility,’ four spousal benefits

In his philosophical work on marital love, “Love and Responsibility,” the future Polish pope was concerned with explaining how spouses can engage in the marital act of sexual intercourse without falling into using each other, a situation he calls “the internal problem of every marriage.” The key is that a couple must understand the great meaning of what they are doing, and understand the possibility of motherhood and fatherhood in each act:

“Mutual betrothed love demands a union of persons. But the union of persons is not the same as sexual union. This (union) is raised to the level of the person only when it is accompanied in the mind and the will by acceptance of the possibility of parenthood… Neither in the man nor in the woman can affirmation of the value of the person be divorced from awareness and willing acceptance that he may become a father and she may become a mother… If the possibility of parenthood is deliberately excluded from marital relations, the character of the relationship between the partners automatically changes. The change is away from unification in love and in the direction of mutual, or rather, bilateral “enjoyment” (p. 228).

This quote from Blessed John Paul is theologically rich; let us focus only on one specific element of it. For the marital act to truly be a personal union it must include the activity of the powers of the soul which identify us as being human: intellect and will. For the marital act to retain its full meaning the spouses must rationally accept the full potential of the act: the possibility of becoming parents (this does not negate the legitimacy of abstaining during fertile periods, when there are good reasons for doing so). To deliberately not include this possibility would be to negate one of the essential goals of the marital act and to render the entire act sinful.

Such is the pattern of contraception in a marriage, and we see it in the brokenness of countless marriages today, in the radical cultural disconnect between sex and children on display everywhere, from soap operas to abortion. As priests, we feel the weight of it in the confessional and grieve the losses.

Yet, for those who generously accept the potentiality of motherhood and fatherhood in their marital love, benefits arise which our world desperately needs. Karol Wojtyla in “Love and Responsibility” points to four personal strengths which grow in married couples who are open to life, which I have simplified somewhat from Wojtyla’s dense philosophical language:

  1. Awareness of the call to parenthood assists growth in self-mastery;
  2. Marital love flourishes when the goodness of parenthood is understood;
  3. Raising a child teaches one to love, to make a gift of self; and
  4. Married persons understand their greatness as procreators with God of a new human person.

Blessed John Paul II insisted that if a couple wants a virtuous, happy, generous, awe-filled marriage, they must remain open to the natural end of the consummating act of marital love, open to the possibility that a child, a new person from God, might come into being through that act.

The drama and beauty of this calling is not lost on many of our young couples currently preparing for marriage in the Diocese of Phoenix; they share their gratitude for the clarity of Church teaching and for the witness of the couples who presented it. These couples are on a path to a joy-filled marriage, which deepens like any Christian vocation authentically lived.

In the final part of this series, I will consider the mission of the fruitful life of marriage, including the couple struggling with infertility.

Read “The blessing of a fruitful life; Part one: Blessed is the fruit of the womb”

Two local Catholic writers join CatholicMom.com

Look for regular columns by local Catholics Jean Briese and Sherry Boas on www.CatholicMom.com.

If you’ve never directed your mouse and keyboard to CatholicMom.com, or it’s been while since your last visit, now might be the time to go. And the reason is not just because Mother’s Day is around the corner. It’s also because you’ll also find two local voices among its newest.

Sherry Boas, who avid Catholic Sun readers might recognize as the author of “The Lily Trilogy” and the “Rosary Meditations for Moms,” joined in April.

Jean Briese, a Cave Creek Catholic mother and grandmother plus children’s catechist who is also involved with her parish’s women’s group, joined in March. Be on the lookout for their regular columns.

Their columns so far:

  • The Mystery of Motherhood
  • The Little Lamb’s Prayer
  • Chaos on Mount Calvary

Briese will contribute monthly. I couldn’t tell for sure a frequency for Boas, but I would think at least monthly. Their profile pages (linked from their names above) also link to their personal pages so you can stay in touch with them more regularly.

In our work through the diocesan Communications Office, at least one of us, if not more, has had the opportunity to speak to both of these Catholic writers. They have a conversational tone and appear very gentle, yet very devout in living their faith. So I think that devout Catholics at all stages of their faith journey will be able to gain some insight into motherhood and the Church from them.

Check them out and let us know what you think.

Parish birthdays: May

Two parishes, established the same day, mark 50 years of service to the local Catholic community May 12.

The following parishes celebrate a birthday this month. Is yours one of them?

Only two of them are younger than the diocese itself with the others established before Dec. 2, 1969.
*=still the only Catholic church serving the city

  • May 5, 1956     St. Henry* (Buckeye)
    The second of three parishes established that year.
    Currently raising funds for a new church with donors in 43 of the 50 states so far plus pledges from the Philippines and several other countries.
    Parish website and capital campaign site
    1,200 families
  • May 10, 1969     Our Lady of the Lake* (Lake Havasu City)
    Second-to-last parish established before the Diocese of Phoenix was formed.
    Parish website
    2,476 families
  • May 11, 1947     St. Margaret Mary* (Bullhead City)
    First chapel was purchased in the area that is now “Davis Camp” on the Nevada border.
    Fr. Peter Dobrowski has been pastor since 1991.
    1,308 families
  • May 11, 1965     St. John Vianney* (Sedona)
    Grounds include three prayer grottos and a Mary Garden
    Parish website
    794 families
  • May 12, 1962     St. Jerome (35th Avenue north of Peoria Avenue)
    Eudist Father Andres Arango, pastor since 2005, is the parish’s fifth pastor
    Parish website
    1,980 families
  • May 12, 1962     St. Louis the King (Maryland and 43rd Avenue in Glendale)
    Tucson’s Bishop selected the parish name to honor Arizona’s early French missionaries.
    Parish website
    1,084 families
  • May 13, 1961     St. Daniel the Prophet (Hayden Rod north of McKellips in Scottsdale)
    Named in honor of Tucson’s retired bishop
    First Mass celebrated in a Motorola Plant for 647 people
    Parish website
    1,500 families
  • May 15, 1953     Ss. Simon and Jude Cathedral (27th Avenue north of Bethany Home Road)
    The diocese’s Mother Church and the seat of the bishop
    Parish website
    4,568 families
  • May 20, 1988   St. Steven* (Dobson and Riggs in Sun Lakes)
    Originally a mission of St. Mary Parish in Chandler
    Parish website
    1,619 families
  • May 22, 1946   St. Catherine of Siena (Central Ave. south of Southern)
    First church was an Army barracks building that parishioners remodeled.
    Parish website
    4,431 families
  • May 25, 1980   St. Patrick (Shea Blvd. west of Loop 101 in Scottsdale)
    Fr. Eric Tellez has been pastor since 1995.
    Parish website
    4,211 families